If there’s anything that boring dates have in common, it is boring questions, and boring answers to them. If you’re going on a blind date, be it Jdate, Saw you at Sinai, Didn’t See you at Sinai, Frumster, or what have you, you’re bound to get asked the same questions every single time. This is why people generally hate dating. You see, when you meet someone randomly and you have a good opener, you generally discuss interesting things before you even touch the topic of where are you from and what do you do and how many siblings you have. But if you’re going on a blind date, you’ll have to be equipped to answer these questions in ways that will steer the conversation to something interesting and, more importantly, emotional – for her.
In order for her to be attracted to you emotionally, which is the only way you’re going to get a second date out of her that isn’t a pity date, is if you get her to exhibit some emotion towards you in some way. Ironically, you don’t have to do much in order to make this happen. You don’t have to be amazing, have amazing stories, have crazy accomplishments, or even look good. All you have to do is force her hand with the right subject matter and get her to feel something about it.
For example, if you’ve just met someone and she asks you where you’re from, don’t just say “San Francisco”. Say, “I’m from the city that invented the fortune cookie.” She’ll guess Japan. Then you can make fun of her for thinking you’re Japanese, smile and giggle a bit. Before you tell her where you’re from, ask her if she’s ever been to Japan. She’ll either say yes or no. If she says yes, get her to tell you a memory she has from her trip, and make it a good one. Tell her to take a few seconds to think of a good one so it won’t be just some other story.
If she says no, ask her where she has been, and then tell her to tell you a good memory from one of those places, something to make you laugh because you’ve been down lately and need some cheering up.
Either way, don’t let her escape without telling you something good. That way, she gets emotional and attributes it to you. From there, you can “reward” her by telling her that you’re actually from San Francisco, and that yes, the first fortune cookie was actually made in San Francisco, not Japan. Tell her that’s one strike. Two more and she’s not going to get a second date. Smile at her.
If she takes you too seriously, tell her you’re joking, it’s OK, calm her down. Then ask her where she’s from, but to tell you by telling you something interesting about it and have you guess. If she has something interesting already, then she’s a keeper. You’ve got nothing to worry about. If she doesn’t have anything, whip out your iPhone and google “Interesting Facts about X,” X being wherever she’s from, and then go through it together. She’ll think you’re interesting and fun. You’ll be fine. All from one seemingly boring question.